(I've edited this to try and be clearer about what I was trying to say; not what was said, as with anything written and/or spoken there are always opportunity for misunderstanding, this blog was edited to "try" and say what I inteneded, not necesarrily how it actually came out. Everyone was so upset, that after a break from the blog and other's posts, I've reread it and tried to smooth it out.)
How do I start? It seems funny to me that when I knit in pubic how often I’m misunderstood. I was at a local meeting group ‘Calling all Knitters’ one Saturday, I’m the only man, when a foursome sat at the table next to us. Within minutes I heard the muted talking that suggests that they’re talking about you, you know, voices lowered even lower than they need be, because the acoustics in a Hardees isn’t that good anyway?
Raucous laughter followed with an overtly loud, “I just can’t get over it, it looks so funny.” I hoped the “it” was my knitting and not me. I looked over, and made eye contact with the speaker. I nodded my head in greeting.
The laughter dying down, continued off and on for a few minutes; I kept on knitting, listening more to the ladies talk in our circle about this pattern or that, what charity things were being knitted for whom, and so on. Then I heard from the table again; “you know, you kind of get used to it after a while.” I smiled inwardly, as I’ve noticed time and time again that that is the general pattern of acceptance.
I’m hoping to find the same thing here. For some time, I’ve looked for a man’s knitting group, one which wasn’t overtly gay. Not because I don’t like gays; but because I don’t care much for the talk that ,with my past experiences, seems to come naturally out of a gay community (BOCTAOE: "But Of Course There Are Obvious Exceptions")
Things like “partner” or wife followed by the pronoun, “he”. or talk about showing off a finished work, I can handle. Constant display of items like a knitted willie warmers, or having one’s better half model it, would bother me. I can honestly say that of the four local knitting groups I go to, ninety-nine percent women, it’s the kind of unabashed talk I’ve rarely if ever heard, and yet I find it here within minutes of reading blogs because it's in the blog promenantly displayed at the top of the site. (BOCTAOE: "But Of Course There Are Obvious Exceptions")
I don’t know where I’m going with this; but, I guess I’ll discover if I belong here or not, we’ll see. I personally am trying to prove to the world that not all knitters are effeminate or gay, as many, especially here in the south stereotype. A side effect from that a majory of knitters are women, and a historical transfer of knitting to women and its general abandonment by men. I guess I’m just asking for a little decorum; or not. You see, I do believe that everyone here has the right to freedom of speech; and perhaps I’m the one who doesn’t belong here.
(added: I've decided I can and enjoy being here and that the stuff I read in the sticky blog is not the complete exception, but mostly an exception. (BOCTAOE: "But Of Course There Are Obvious Exceptions" ex: Recent talk about jeans and butts)
(added: no more would I...)
I would like to hear from others on this…. the real subject is “decorum”.
And at the risk of belaboring the obvious: (BOCTAOE: "But Of Course There Are Obvious Exceptions")